Question of the day!!!!

Mrs E
I've lost 3 babies and trying so hard to fall pregnant again and it stick. Everyone keeps saying "it will happen when you stop trying" how do I stop trying when it's all I think about everyday? This month I didn't do ovulation tracking so I could "not try" but I just can't stop thinking about it. I know my body and when I roughly ovulate and have sex around then. My question is does anyone have any advise of tips on how to relax about it and stop thinking about it so much and "not try?"