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I went to a guys house we were drinking but both okay, like I could drive if I had to (bc I drove home fine). We were messing around and we were having sex but he tried to put it in another hole and I said no!! ( I kind of laughed it off I didn't want him to feel
Embarased, maybe he thought I liked that). then he tried to do it again and I said no stop!! and then he pushed it in really hard and like all the way and it hurt really bad and I screamed and pushed him off of me.

I started crying because it brought up another incident in my life recently;/

he started yelling at me telling me that I should've brought it up before we got together but that wasn't a conversation I thought I had to have with someone before we even got to know each other? I was just going with the flow of the evening,  not trying to bring up being sexually violated in my a-hole.....

He basically kept Calling me a Bitch and saying I was a tease while I was getting dressed and saying I messed up his night. I've never felt so.... Disrespected. It's not rape, it's just like he violated me. But I don't know what to say about it. Second time it's happened and I dont know how else to say No!!!

I feel like I should tell this to the next person I decide to be intimate with, but I honestly don't feel like I should have to talk about such a personal event before I'm ready.
I feel like I'm allowed to have sex with anyone I want for whatever reason but talking about things that make me cry are more intimate to me..

I just wanted to Say this out loud.
I'm So upset

*** didn't want to expose my identity right now, but as far as the drinking, I about 3 drinks spaces out over the course of 3 hours that we were together. Only beer, no liquor. I know my limits drinking wise, I'd never drive if I thought I'd endanger anyone. I was honestly planning to stay the night, but that definitely wasn't happening anymore, so I couldn't get Out if there fast enough. 
Driving > waiting for an uber. The way he was screaming at me I was kind of afraid he would come after me if I didn't leave immediately. I'm still in shock at his reaction even hours later. This was around 9:30.

My friends are asking if I'm going to report it but is something I should report to the police? I haven't showered yet, he never finished but we didn't use a condom... (In my kind it was def heat of the moment, now I'm thinking to him it wasn't). I've never ever been through something like this.

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That absolutely is rape. You said no stop right? Even if you were having sex with him, you said no stop to a specific sexual act and he did it without your consent. I'm sorry that happened to you

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Dude. He totally raped you. That is not okay. You need to tell someone..

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To me you where rape, you said no and he keep going. He's a disgusting asshole, on another note you don't have to state why you don't like it a good man will just listen to you and not do it.

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It's rape. You told him to stop, you told him no, and he did it anyway. It wasn't consensual, and that's literally the definition of rape. And if you can't be open and honest with this guy what's the point? Also regardless of how well you think you do with alcohol in your system PLEASE never drink and drive. Putting yourself in danger is one thing but putting other innocent lives in danger out of your own ignorance is unacceptable.

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That is rape! What a filthy pig ohhhhh that shit makes my blood boil!!!!!!!!

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That is rape. No means no, period. You had no obligation to tell him anything before hand. You had no obligation to do anything. Even if you had started having sex and then out of nowhere suddenly stopped without giving him any explanation, you have every right to do that and that wouldn't make you a "tease." You have the right to say no to anything sexual at any time for any reason. The only person at all in the wrong in this situation is very much him and for multiple reasons.

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Sounds like rape to me. Rape is not just vaginal intercourse where one party has said no but any kind of sexual recourse where you were forced into it. And as for my own experiences, I have never in my life had to tell someone before I was sexual with that I like specific things and don't like others. Not exactly one of those topics you typically list out for someone. Most people just go with the flow and do what comes in the moment. I'm sorry you went through this. I would absolutely report it. If not for yourself, then for the next unfortunate woman that comes across his sorry ass path. He sees no wrong in what he don't and will absolutely do it again.

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It is rape. You clearly said no twice and he didn't stop, it would be different if there was some ambiguity or he tried it and then stopped when you said no. Sexual consent is not consent to your whole body. Also, do not feel like you have to justify to anyone how much or little you were drinking. No means no.

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That was rape dear... You told him no and he did it any way...  Anal sex isn't something everyone does our id's okay with... He sounds like an asshole.. He was more worried about his night than hurting you.. That kind of experimenting needs to go slow not like his selfish ass..  You have every right to report him if you desire... I never had to tell my husband yes or no to that because it really isn't something we are interested in.. Vaginal sex is not a green light for him to take advantage of your whole body.. So sorry you were in that situation...please leave him and don't go back

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I am so sorry, if you said no twice he should have respected that and you shouldn't have to tell him something so personal so soon. It's a good thing you found out now that he's such an ass!! Maybe you should just be very clear that you don't want any anal at first and that way you don't have to say anything about what you've been through but they do t try to make you do something you don't want to.

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