Shower

Carrie
Question:
My husbands aunt offered to throw a shower for me. However, she didn't ask for a list. After talking to my sister in laws I found she's just having their side of the family. I have no family. Just one mom. Everyone else is dead. Most of my friends are more like family. None of them have offered to host me a shower. Do I ask his aunt if she needs a guest list or just prepare for baby the best I can and not worry about friends?