Major libido imbalance between my partner and I
I'm looking for ladies who have been in similar situations to mine... I need a kind ear (or two!) and a little good advice.
My partner and I have been together since August last year. Almost twelve months. In that time, I can count the times we've had sex with two hands and still have fingers left over.
Now, my partner is 29, I'm 30. He's relatively fit and healthy but he does have some previous major injuries that do pain him on occasion. He is also taking prescribed ulcer medication for undiagnosed ulcers. He rarely drinks, if ever but he does smoke, both cigarettes and pot.
I'm fit and healthy, I've lost 19 kilos over the last twelve months which has put me back into my favourite clothes. I smoke pot with him, but not cigarettes.
He has stepped into my life and the life of my 11 year old son, taking on the role of stepdad like he was made for it. He is affectionate, not as affectionate as I'd like, but he does show some affection. He loves lying beside me while I stroke his back and shoulders. He has no problem showing affection in public or expressing his feelings. He assures me that he finds me attractive, that "he loves me more than I know". He has supported us financially when I was briefly unemployed. He drove 90 minutes at 9pm one night because I saw some gorgeous kittens advertised and we ended up walking away with two kittens because he couldn't bear to part them! He has a heart of gold and although he can be a bit of a dick sometimes I am starting to get comfortable enough with him to tell him when he is behaving like one! He is my dream guy, with traits I didn't even know I needed and although he's got his faults I think he's perfect enough for me. But...
He simply has no sex drive. The last time we had sex was the 31st January this year. Time before that, 27th September.
We live together. We spend 99% of our time outside of work around each other. I'm absolutely positive he isn't cheating.
We rarely kiss more than a couple kisses without tongue and, rarely, a couple with tongue, before bed.
He says he simply doesn't need or want sex as often as other men. He told me women have left him before over this. He tells me he loves me and wants me, that he finds me sexy and beautiful etc. He is talking about house deposits and marriage and children of his own (yeah, I know!)...
Is a complete lack of sex a dealbreaker? Even if you've found your very own McDreamy? Should I start insisting that he see a doctor or counsellor (or both!)?
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What happened?
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