I've spent the last few weeks stressing. My mom told (didn't ask, told) me she was coming to stay for a week. Just her. Then when she was visiting a few weeks ago she told me my step-dad was coming too. When I reminded her she said it would be just her, she told me he just decided he wanted to. And that was the end of that discussion. A few days ago my biological father (who was a drunk and not around most of my life and I now see once a year for a few hours at Christmas) and his wife said they would be coming to visit a few weeks after baby was born. Again, I was told and not asked. Not to mention the fact that this is a man who I don't see as my dad because he was never around and who will have no claim of grandparenthood on my child. I had a breakdown after being told this because he's not welcome in my house. We live in a different state than all the rest of our family, so there are no short hour-long visits. The in-laws were kind enough to wait and were given options of when to visit. I appreciated that.