Breast milk after loss? Need help!

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I lost my baby after 20wks. I'm sure some of you know my story by now. But, I'm now having issues with my breasts! They hurt so bad and feel like stones plus they are HUGE. I'm not engorging but just recently I started leaking. Doctors say to put ice and wear a tight bra and not to use warm/hot water on them or stimulate the nipples so that the body does not produce milk and the pain should go away within a few days. However, mother in law says to pump until my breasts turn soft or when the milk stops and it'll stop leaking on its own. (She's been through two miscarriages) Doctors say if I pump, it will not stop. I pumped anyway for some relief but now I feel guilty. I hate not being able to have my baby through this. If there's anyone who also experienced a loss and leaking breasts, let me know what you did for them to stop hurting/leaking.

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I'm so sorry for your loss!

try putting cabbage on them I know it sounds crazy but it helps dry them up & it will also help with the pain.

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I've lost two babies at birth. I am so sorry for your loss and know that dealing with engorged breasts just makes evwrything that much worse. All the advice I've read so far is fantastic: tight wraps, cabbage leaves in your bra (frozen are great) and not pumping. I will say that I did pump enough just to relieve the pressure and only had to do that a couple times and found that it helped me so much. Good luck, Doll. I am so so very sorry for what you're going through.

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If you pump it will relieve the discomfort temporarily but also stimulate more milk production.

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There is medication you can take to dry up your boobs within a week. Your dr can give you it.

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Sorry for your loss....  try to keep them dry! When I had my loss I kept them wrapped and tried to change the pads often but they got pink and very itchy . Kinda like an infection from being damp . Medicine was expensive. So change breast pads often.

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So very sorry for your loss! I lost twin girls last October at 19 weeks. It was so devastating. Shortly after my milk came in and I was in sooo much pain. Dr said the same thing- put ice on them and wear a fitted bra. I also took Tylenol to help with pain. Unfortunately it took about 2 weeks for my breasts to dry up and go back to normal. I've never pumped before so I'm not sure about that but I would recommend just leaving them alone and giving your body time to heal. My thoughts are with you and your family! 💗

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My sister took something from the doctor.  She did the ice and used cabbage leaves in her bra. I don't know exactly what she did, and she's sure to be asleep right now, but I bet the internet could help if you googled cabbage leaves and drying up milk supply.

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I lost my son at 3 weeks old. I had been pumping the whole time and had to then stop when he passed. It was so hard because I hurt so bad! But I would just hand pump til I took just the edge off and then wouldn't pump again til I absolutely had too. I used cabbage leaves to help with the pain and it felt so good! I would say to pump as little as possible cause it will stimulate more milk production and you don't want that right now. I know your pain and it's so hard to not have baby here. But with time healing starts and you just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Good luck.

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Don't pump!!!! Ice packs and tight bras should help

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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my last baby at 36 weeks. My milk came in and it was awful but I did not pump and used ice packs. The ice helped and my milk went away in about a week. I also wore a sport bar 24 hours a day.

Breast milk after loss? Need help!

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