Can u feel ur self dilating

Ayleen
Ladies I'm 35 weeks 4 days pregnant I've lost my mucous plug at 32 weeks and have been 1cm dilated since then my cervix was low, I keep feeling wired tugs and movements down in my private area every time the baby pushes down I want to know is it possible to feel when you dilated? 
I've also been having these leaks for a whole week now it's warm like if u peed on ur self is that normal I went to the ER they told me my water hasn't broken and it isn't leaking but they won't tell me what the leakage is I'm a FTM so sorry for all the questions !!