How do I make him last longer?

I had a few ideas to try this, but whenever I try to take things slowly, or add a little longer foreplay, he gets really really aggressive, like REALLY aggresive. He would pick me up off him and put me in missionary or doggy, normally, this is REALLY hot! Who doesn't like their men aggressive lol? But sometimes I want to be aggressive and control things but I'm afraid if I was aggressive at the same time he is, things might be slightly violent and I don't want that either? What should I do?