My husband and I have talked about our baby shower so much I feel like my head is actually spinning. My husbands family is not from the same financial background as my family. It literally makes no difference to me! My mother and sisters are throwing us a baby shower in MI (the state where our families are from) while we live in AL so I will be flying home specifically for the event. I've stressed to both my mother and mother in law how important it is that my mother in law be included due to this being her 1st grandchild (she is soft spoken and has a bery laid back personality so I don't want her to get lost in the shuffle on anything. It's an important day for her too) I call her every few weeks and let her know how things are going with the planning and if my mom and I have talked about anything and get her opinions even though she isn't financially supporting the party. My husband is concerned with his mom feeling "uncomfortable" at my family's "elaborate" baby shower. The baby shower is by no means elaborate it's just brunch, we've invited 50 people it really is nothing fancy. He said that he thinks his mom will be uncomfortable because they can't financially help, which isn't expected. We ended up getting into a big disagreement about it which left me in hormonal tears. I include his mother in everything and I want her involved.  I straight up asked him if she would feel more uncomfortable not being invited or what the deal is. I feel like my family being generous and throwing this shower for us is not a competition. I've asked my husband several times what else can I be doing to help this and he says nothing I'm doing everything I can. I'm 2 seconds from saying tell your mom to get the fuck over it!!!!! I've suggested having his family do a smaller gathering later on in the afternoon that's separate from my family and more their style but he thinks that will offend them. I just feel like I can't win for losing and I want this to be a joyous day to celebrate our baby.