Survivors guilt?

Question

Does anyone else feel incredibly guilty about having a successful IVF treatment? I was in a group of 5 wonderful and supportive women and we all started IVF together over a year ago. I'm the only one that was lucky enough to fall pregnant. I've now had my baby, and unfortunately they've all had multiple unsuccessful transfers. They say they still want me to be part of the group but I'm torn. I'd love to support them through it and hopefully be there when they get the good news but I know it's hard for them knowing I've had a baby. I don't want to leave them either. Either way I feel so guilty.

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I'm on the other side of the situation. My friend already had her baby girl, and I just had my FET. We don't see each other often but I always see her baby pics online. It doesn't really make me angry, sad, or feel that I shouldn't be friends with her anymore. I actually ask her for advice, like baby stuff and giving birth. We're still good friends. Because of this I don't recommend cutting ties because as friends, they should be happy for you. Leaving might make them feel different.

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Yes I feel terrible and guilty at times for those around me who are still struggling. I am trying to be respectful and not show or say much about our pregnancy but I wish there was more I could do to help. One of my friends got pregnant the same day we did our egg retrieved. She miscarried a month later. I feel terrible and keep saying my prayers for her and her SO.

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ugh me! I met some wonderful ladies here on glow. Most of them are still trying. When the last one lost her baby, I had to take myself of Glow for a bit to grieve😔😭It still makes me sad!!!

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