👏🏼😒😒 controlling ? Boyfriend said NO TO A SPRAY TAN

Question

Okay so my boyfriend & I have been together for a little longer than a month...

And we have a pool party at his friends house tommorow right.. And he has been pretty weird lately.

A few guys have hit on me in front of him, and he gets extremely upset even if a guy just checks me out.. I understand that to a minimum..

I pay ZERO attention to guys who hit on me and rarely notice but I'm so into him.

So the other day he posted a shirtless picture of him going around town with his bestfriend, and him and his best friend tanning shirtless.. So yesterday I posted this picture of me tanning. On snapchat.. And he was super clingy and seemed irritated a bit
So when he got off work last night he asked me to come over, because we had gotten into an argument about him thinking I don't trust him, but I do.. And I said I think he doesn't trust me and he got pissed because he said he does trust me but always tells me that I say he isn't good enough, but that's not true I tell him daily how amazing he is..

His ex used to tear him down daily and cheated when they were engaged. Anyways..

So I wore a tank top, (I have a big chest) I hide it the best I can.. And he kept pulling up my shirt and said "why are you showing these guys your boobs" I said what is your deal I'm wearing a shirt and it doesn't show anything we are at the grocery store.. ?? And he kept pulling it up.

Then today he calls me during his lunch and ask me what I'm doing, and I said I was finishing my nails then I'm going to go get a spray tan..
& he was like NO YOURE NOT GETTING A SPRAY TAN. And asked why I wanted one, and I said I wanted to look good for myself tommorow because I feel overweight and spray tans make me feel good.. And he was like are you just wanting me friends to hit on you? And I said NO I want you and only you, and kept telling me not to get a spray tan..

I got a spray tan, because it's my body.. Then he asked me to wear a Tshirt over my bikini 2morrow but other girls going including his EX ARE WEARING BIKINIS  ALL DAY.

Answer

That would NOT fly with me. You need to set him straight and tell him that he can NOT be telling you what to do with your body. That you will where what you want and do as you please with your own body and if he has a problem with that, then he needs to work it out himself instead of trying to control you. Tell him that he is the only one you want and if he doesn't believe that, then tell him he is more than welcome to walk away because you don't need someone doubting your love and controlling what you do with YOUR body.

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Your boyfriend is very insecure. He may not act like it but that's why he is so controlling. He doesn't want other guys looking at you because he thinks you will like them better than you. No matter how much you tell him that you only want him it will still be on his mind. You need to tell him you understand why he's being like this but it's your body and yours alone and you can pamper/ yourself as YOU please. I went through similar problems with my boyfriend but we've worked through it because I was insecure also and pampering/ dressing to make myself feel good helped me. If he truly cares about you he will try to control his insecurity and love you no matter what he does.

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Wear the damn bikini, he does not own your body. Do what you want. If he can take his shirt off infront of girls, you can wear a bikini

👏🏼😒😒 controlling ? Boyfriend said NO TO A SPRAY TAN

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