How can I help

My boyfriend is not in a good place at the moment 
Work wise family wise and he is shutting me out 
He doesn't show emotions and right now we just fight a lot
He says he's in a dark place and he doesn't want to talk about it
I can't even go to his house( his family hate me )
To make sure he is ok  I feel shut out and pushed away and when I say this he says I'm making it about me 
Am I?? How can I help him and make him understand that I just care