People calling "Rape"

Today I think people are throwing the word "rape" around too much.  Girls are putting themselves into sexual situations, and by this I mean getting the guy to bed, not having some drinks at a bar or wearing skimpy clothing.  I mean performing in actual sexual actions. Girls put themselves in these situations, and then often change their minds in the middle of the action, which is ok, but not telling the guy, and later they accuse him of doing something wrong when they were the ones who didn't tel him that they wanted to stop, giving him no clue. And they often say that they hadn't given explicit consent beyond that point making it rape. But he didn't think he was doing anything wrong, as he was never told that she changed her mind, or told to stop, or anything of the sort. I honestly feel bad for men that this happens to. And as an actual rape victim I think it's ridiculous to even put this in the same category as what happened to me and countless other women who said no, or were taken by force, or wasn't asking for it.