When my boyfriend leaves

Question

My boyfriend sleeps over at my house a lot and when he leaves I hate it, I feel so lonely and bored and depressed. When I'm with him I'm happy, loved and not bored. I have trouble letting him go I cry like a little baby when he leaves me but when I leave he's totally fine with it. Why doesn't he feel the same way as I do? He says he misses me when he leaves but I know it's not the same as me because I miss him way more

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It sounds a bit like an unhealthy attachment to be honest, just because he's not bawling his eyes out doesn't mean he doesn't miss you. Happiness shouldn't be totally dependant on another person and it sounds like his isn't but yours is.

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This is not a healthy reaction to a partner leaving. Please consider seeking therapy to hopefully repair your probable attachment/anxiety disorder or abandonment issues. I'm sorry you are going through this, but you do need to know that this is not normal. I hope you can work through this and feel whole on your own!

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Please research codependency because you're demonstrating signs of an unhealthy reliance and attachment to him for your happiness

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because he doesn't have issues and you do?

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I'd be very careful with appearing to be very clingy. Establish independence, not co-dependence. Guys love a chase, even in a relationship. If he knows he has you around his finger... If he doesn't need to chase you and knows you react so dramatically to him just being away from you for a short time, he will likely begin to find that behavior unattractive.

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Some people are more sensitive and attachable. Ask if he can leave shirts or jackets over, and maybe to fall asleep on the phone with him

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You need to see a therapist. That is not healthy or normal. It's not like he is leaving and won't be back for a year. You said he is there a lot. You need to learn to be happy without him. What if you broke up? Your life can not be centered around him.

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You need to seek professional help

When my boyfriend leaves

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