Rainbow babies

I was in another discussion on yahoo about women talking about if an aborted baby can be considered a rainbow baby. One woman said (who had a miscarriage) that a woman who aborts feels no pain or loss after aborting so she said no. Another said she had a miscarriage and an abortion and said there is no difference. Now, I've never had a miscarriage but I have had an abortion. And it was the most terrible time of my life. I cried every day and cried myself to sleep at night for 3 straight months. Sometimes I still do. I don't want and don't deserve sympathy from anyone because I made that horrible choice. But I consider that baby a rainbow baby. I don't care what anyone says.