Am I crazy ?

Question

I see a lot of I supportive and kind words on here so I just need to vent a little Sorry I will try not make it long while where do I start when I first got pregnant my family treated me like shit they  begged me to get a abortion told me I was going to die giving birth , if my baby is sick they want nothing to do with the baby  ,  I was having a baby to keep a man and my mom was trying to fight me my boyfriend is the only one keeping me sane I forgive my family and let it go but now he's hates my family because how they treat me I can't really blame him and I don't want to loss him because my family is crazy he's great treats me like a queen and helps in everyway he can his family treated me better then my own  family do so anyway me and boyfriend decide we need to get a place because my family doesn't want him to be around they want me to leave and be a single mother because that's all my family know nobody Stays with there child father but now the building I stay in with my family Is being is sold so we have to move I pay all the bills everything is my name my mom and sister doesn't work and there able to work they just don't and my dad is sick so I decide me and boyfriend would move in with them and pay bills despite of the way they treated me because I want to help them,  Iam crazy for wanting to help ?

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If you want to stay with them and still help them that says tons of good things about you, just remember you have a new family now, one that is your own, and you should consider that too! Good luck girl.

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Yes , you are fucking out of your mind for still wanting to help. Lol but in all seriousness , if your family is that negative, I would distance myself. I come from a family pretty much the same and the best thing I did was leave. I still see and then every now and then and you can love people but from a distance. You have to let go of any guilt you feel.

My mom could work just didn't. I'm adopted and she would adopted or foster hella kids just for the paycheck. So we were always hella poor. I remember getting jobs under the table bc I was tired of not having food in the house or the power getting shut off. I would give her half my paycheck to the cent.

Distance yourself. Save your money for your baby and yourself. Better your life. You have a choice with how you want your life to be. If you choose to stay with the family, I wish the best for you, If you choose to distance yourself I say hell yeah strong , strong ass woman. Took me so long to finally realize it's not worth my mental sanity to keep helping people who don't help themselves and treat my like shit.

I will say , ever since I left, my family and my relationship is so much better. They actually respect me now.

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Family or not, I wouldn't do it. I would focus on myself and my baby given how they feel about the pregnancy.
If family is so important they would have supported you, right? how do you know they won't kick you out if you stop working and can't pay their bills.....no thanks. Don't stress yourself, they are grown folk and are not your problem.

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Your not crazy they are your family and despite what they do to you its human nature to love them and want to help. I would start making your sister and mom work if they are able! No reason for you to be doing all the work! Good luck!

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