Need better sex

Been having sex problem forever. Basically lack of sex. When we do do it, I sometimes wish he can look better. I know that sounds lame. But he is really into showering and getting super comfortable before sex. While I am just more into being spontaneous and if we can actually undress ourselves n stuff cuz I think that's sexy... 
Basically I crave sex, I don't feel I have enough of it. But when we do have it I also find myself not too much into it cuz it's like the same thing again. And I guess I haven't push him much on these details cuz I think just getting him to agree sex is a success already. It feels all so sad to me, I wish it isn't so.