At what point do lesbians count their virginities to be lost?

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Out of curiosity I was just wondering how 'virginity' is measured in lesbian relationships. In a heterosexual relationship its clear as its through penetration of the penis but when you're a girl and you're having sex with a girl there is usually no penis involved so at what point would you no longer call yourself a virgin. Or are all lesbians virgin if they've never used a dildo? Just wondering any general or personal answers would help lol!

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A penis isn't needed to have sex, besides virginity is just a misogynistic concept used to control and shame women. If two women engage in sexual activities then they aren't virgins.

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It depends on the person actually. Some will say they are virgins because they've never had sex with a guy. Some will say it's having sex with a dildo and some will say it's being penetrated by a woman with her fingers.

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I asked my friend the same question lol. Basically what ever you consider "sex" is when you lose your virginity. So for me before I ever had penetrative sex I counted my self as a half virgin cuz I had done oral (on a guy). That could count as sex in some lesbian relationships or maybe just foreplay. It's all in what they want to call sex and what they want to call foreplay.

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When they go down