To all the adolescents considering having sex

Everyday I come on here reading about young girls aged 14-17 asking if they should consider having sex. Two or three posts later I read about a 15 year old scared she might be pregnant. Or some 16 year old crying because she just had sex with some guy and now he is ignoring her.

I know that things have changed since I was a kid but the way we develop as human beings haven't. Science have proven that once a girl gets her period she's physically able to have sex and go to through pregnancy and that is true but emotionally we don't keep up with our development.

Humans don't stop growing until about age 20-21. Our brains are the last part of our bodies to mature and Frontal Lobe is the last part of the brain to develop. This part of the brain predicts future consequences of decisions making. With other words young people do things without being able to predict consequences of their actions.

I'm not trying shame young people or to talk down to you, I just want some of you to think before getting involved with things that you might not be ready for emotionally.

If you want to consider if you are ready to have sex you have to consider if you are ready for the consequences of having sex and if you are ready for the consequences of things going wrong when having sex.

Ask yourself these questions......

1)What if I get pregnant how will I handle it? - Since sex can produce babies and birth control CAN fail especially if you don't use it right you have to be able to take responsibility should it happen.

2)What if you have sex and contract a STD ? - This can happen especially if you treat sex as a hobby, sport or a outdoor activity. You will need to get medical treatment since some STDs can be very nasty and if left untreated can be life threatening.

3)What if it gets out at school that I'm having sex ? - Having a bad reputation doesn't sound so bad but you could end up being bullied and shamed by your peers for being promiscuous.

4) How will you handle it if your parents find out you are having sex? - This one is pretty obvious that your parents will be upset with you and disappointed of your actions.

5) What if the person just used you for sex (also connects to number 3) and brags to all their buddies about shagging you ? - You have just given him something special and now you can't take back what you have given them and then they went and ruined your reputation.

Something else to consider is why do you want to have sex at such a young age, there are really bad reasons for deciding to have sex.

Peer pressure is one of the worst reason to have sex. Having sex because it seems cool and everyone else is doing it is proof you are not read for sex.

Having sex because your bf/gf pressured you into it is not a good idea if your bf/gf loves you they won't pressure you into having sex with them.

Having sex just because you want to know what it feels like. Rather mastrubate it's much saver and you don't risk falling pregnant.

Having sex because you want to spite you parents. There is so many things wrong with this I don't even know where to start.

Having sex because you want someone else to love you. If a person doesn't love you before having sex they won't love you after having sex so don't do it.

So please think very long and hard about it before having sex. Love yourself and your body and respect it. If you are considering having sex please get yourself educated properly about sex and the consequences of having sex BEFORE having sex.

http://mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/02/18/at-what-age-is-the-brain-fully-developed/

http://organsa12.imascientist.org.au/2012/09/04/what-is-the-last-part-of-the-brain-to-fully-develop/

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-teen-brain-still-under-construction/

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=141164708

Update 5 Aug: Just to clear things up I don't believe in teaching abstinence only ed. I do believe we need to teach adolescence the very serious risks of being sexual active and about contraceptives. But I do encourage abstinence as the best way of staying safe. I don't sugarcoat risks and I would have post images of some of the STDS out there but I'm not sure if it's against eve/GLOW rules so I didn't. I might in the future make a post on STDS explaining the symptoms and problems caused by them. I really don't care if I get hate posts but hearing about a pregnant 14 year old test positive for HIV and Clymidia just made me realize how much these kids need to be informed about the risks of sex and that it's not a game.