I've been seeing this guy for a month now, we've finally had sex, we waited three weeks before anything. The first two times were short lived and the foreplay was harsh, fumbly, awkward in every way, lots of directions were being given and not completely understood, and it sort of hurt because pressure was off... Then the sex, again short lived, only did me on top (the first time) and then him on top (the second time) and it was sort of painful and completely lacked experience from his end. The most recent time was tonight (2 days after the first time) this time there was no foreplay except maybe 5 minutes of kissing, him on top, and then I still never came. I did tell him as much as I loved sensual I really prefer a little more motion and friction and he gladly obliged but still i couldn't get out of my head with trying to figure out ways to make it better for me. He is such a sweet heart, kind, never expects me to want him, shy and lacks any confidence in the bedroom. It's a turn off! I love spending time with him, holding hands, kissing, watching movies, shopping but our bedroom time is hampered by his lack of experience and confidence!