Shouldn't you be happy that I use a vibrator?

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So I'm married and use a vibrator. My hubby is against it for religious reasons and maybe ego idk...... I mean, I'm not cheating with a physical person. Yes, I think about others most times like celebrities or crushes. Also I use it cause the vibrator gives me orgasms which I found out that it's now through clitorial stimulation after births. Hubby fingering don't do it, cause I tried. No I can't have sex with a vibrator near him.
I'm I wrong here?
EdIt: He hasn't seen the vibrator so I don't think he's threatened physically. He says having pleasure fulfilled by "another" when married is a sin. I haven't told him I don't enjoy sex with him unless I have clitorial stimulation and that may be with only a vibrator. I tell him I think of him

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So he'd rather deny you pleasure because of his own selfish reasons? 😡

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Nothing wrong with the vibrator. But thinking about celebrities, and definitely a "crush" seems wrong. I would be SO pissed if my husband masturbated to thoughts of someone else. You shouldn't be thinking about sex with anyone else, even if it's a fantasy about someone you'll never meet.

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I want to know what kind of God would deny pleasure, and why. Do what you want it's his religion not yours.

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Whatever, anyone who says they have never fantasized about another person is lying, I think your husband needs to get over his hang ups about your 'little friend'. Does he ever masterbate, because if he does he has even less reason to be pissy with you. I do however think you need to tell him how he can help you have an orgasm, as this may make the vibrator less o f an issue

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You're not wrong. My husband with me to help pick out my last two vibrators lmao you should just sit down and talk to your husband about it. Ask why he doesn't like it and tell him why you do. Especially how it's harder for you to orgasm now that you've given birth. You deserve to be pleasured too.

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to me he's being selfish. i need clitoral stimulation for an orgasm so my husband and I went and picked out some toys so we both enjoy sex and can enjoy orgasms. he's in the wrong for making you feel bad for it.

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I take it y'all got married without similar religious views?  :/

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Your husband is correct, thinking about others while married is sinful. I mean it would really upset me if i found out my husband was masturbating and having thoughts about others. Personally in our marriage we don't even do self pleasure, we rather save it for when we're together. And the word of God does say that if you look at someone and lust after them, you've already committed adultery in your heart.

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I think your wrong and totally agree with your husband.. Sexual thoughts about someone else while in a relationship is wrong. And vibrators are gross to me and I don't use one.. My man is all I need.

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Religiously speaking, if he's Christian, the bible says that all sexual pleasure, including arousal, belongs to our spouse. Maybe that's where this is coming from? If you're being aroused and climaxing without him, especially with someone else in mind, that *can* be an issue for a bible believing Christian spouse. 
I would suggest working on ways to get there with your husband. Different positions, maybe even incorporating your toy *with him* could help? Idk. I hope y'all figure something out before it snowballs into a much bigger issue.

Shouldn't you be happy that I use a vibrator?

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