And he is punishing himself to the extreme. My SO got caught in a police roadblock going from dinner where he had a couple glasses of wine to meet with a friend. His blood alcohol was barely over the legal limit here (which is even lower than the legal limit in U.S.), but still it was over. It his first offense but his license will still be suspended for a year and he will have to pay a fine. He has a very prestigious job and has never been in trouble before. He is an incredibly straight laced guy who made a dangerous and stupid mistake. We both agree he deserves the punishment but I am afraid he is beating himself up over this too much.