Lame?

Laura
So I had my bachelorette party. And my fiances sister came and said "you're about to do a body shot off that guy" That guy was on his bachelor party and his wedding was going to be on the same day mine is. Anyways his group of guys were already begging me to and I told them no many times because I would not like it if my fiance did a body shot off another girl. They called me lame and I told them I'm not lame with my fiancΓ© but in this scenario if that makes me lame then I guess I am. Anyways my fiances sister literally kept begging me to do it like 10 times telling me I was going to. Asked why not. I told her why and she said well he doesn't have to know. Like really? So yeah start my marriage off with lies. This really irritated me. This is just how I feel about it though. I have no desire to be in physical contact like that with other men and that's not the type of bachelorette party I was shooting for ya know? Anyways the rest of the time was amazing. I just want to know would you take a body shot off another guy on your bachelorette party? Would your fiancΓ© care? If so would you just never tell?
Edit: in no way am I shaming or thinking bad of others who would. Some people don't think of that as crossing the line in a relationship. But I do. It's just not my cup of tea. Just interested in other people's responses. 
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I say good on you for standing your ground, keeping your morals, and staying faithful πŸ‘Œ I never understand why some people feel the need to go "crazy" on their hens/bucks party, in my eyes that night is not an excuse to be unfaithful! I think your fiancΓ© is a lucky man to be with someone so loyal 😁✌️

La

Laura β€’ Aug 7, 2016
*get

La

Laura β€’ Aug 7, 2016
We got called the old couple as well! Lol thank you and I wish the same for you and your husband!

Ra

Rachel β€’ Aug 7, 2016
We where also called lame and prudes and oh god yous two are like two old people πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ we didn't care- good luck to you and I hope u have a beautiful wedding and a wonderful life together, we are still newlyweds and loving every minute ❀️

El

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Good on you, you did the right thing πŸ˜ƒπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌ that's a weird thing to encourage someone to do when they are about to marry your brother πŸ€” his sister sounds like a trouble maker to me, be careful. 

La

Laura β€’ Aug 7, 2016
I was thinking this later on. I guess to see if I had any intentions I was hiding and that I would "let loose" on that type of occasion and then she would get to see if I was really in love with her brother. Idk. I thought it was pretty strange.

An

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You have morals and she thinks it's lame?  Keep an eye on that snake in the grass......

La

Laura β€’ Aug 9, 2016
Yeah. I'm wondering now that people have brought that up. 😬

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πŸ‘» β€’ Aug 8, 2016
I agree. A few people have suggested it might have been a trick or trap, but that doesn't make her suggestions any better! Total snake

An

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Dude I totally get you. I don't understand it either. Why do people (males and females both) feel the need to go out and do things like that before they get married? Like hello they are already in a relationship, not single. Sounds like a bad way of starting out a marriage. Now if y'all agree to it beforehand, then go for it. It's just not for me and I'd be pissed if my fiancΓ© did that as would he. Definitely something that needs to be talked about before the bachelor or bachelorette party

La

Laura β€’ Aug 7, 2016
Yeah I don't understand that either. Why do you need a last "wild night" like that? If you really love that person I don't feel like you would want to. But that's just how I feel

Al

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I guess we're both lame! I wouldn't do shots off another man body. If I'm fixing to get married to someone then I'll do shot off his body not another man body. It's a shame that his sister didn't respect you and left it as a no. I would keep my eye outπŸ‘€ girls like that usally encourage other to cheat. Lord know what she can tell him behind your back.But congarts on the marriage! And good for you for standing your grounds!

La

Laura β€’ Aug 8, 2016
Thank you! I told him about it immediately after and he said she's a hypocrite lol

β€’K

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So you chose not to dishonor your future husband when encouraged by his own sister? Gee, how "lame." Lame is pressuring someone to do something against their better judgement. Lame is encouraging an action that could upset your own brother. Better keep an eye on that sis in law.Good for you for standing your ground. Your fiance is a lucky man to have such a faithful partner! πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

La

Laura β€’ Aug 8, 2016
Thank you! I told him about it and he said how hypocritical she was because she would be pissed if her husband did that. Idk if she was just drunk and trying to get me to loosen up or if she was trying to set me up. Either way it wasn't happening.

Wo

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You didn't do anything wrong and I don't see what you said as judgmental. I wouldn't do it either, I've never understood the whole mentality that bachelor/bachelorette parties are your last chance to cut loose.....just no. If you're having a bachelorette party then you've already made the commitment so you should just keep your hands and other body parts off anyone else.

La

Laura β€’ Aug 7, 2016
My POV as well. If you're getting married I wouldn't think you would want to "cut loose" one last time. Otherwise why are you making that commitment?

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It's okay to be "Lame." I'm "Boring" lol. My husband and I have been together 12 years now and the reason why he asked me out was because I was "boring" compared to all the other girls. I didn't (and still don't) drink alcohol, take drugs, smoke, party, etc..and neither did he. 

La

Laura β€’ Aug 9, 2016
Lol! Me too!

Ly

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I would never. But I found out yesterday my guy ha been traveling over 30miles to see a girl and even asked her to dinner telling her how she deserved to not work hard and all of that. I have no doubt he would take a body shot off another lady. So since my discovery yesterday our wedding and all is on hold and I don't wear my engagement ring until further notice. But even then I still would never take a body shot off another man. 

La

Laura β€’ Aug 8, 2016
I'm so sorry that happened to you! I can't even begin to imagine how that feels *hugs and prayers*

K

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You're not the lame. Everyone else has zero respect for you and your marriage. So sorry. Good for you for standing your ground .πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ’™ My husband went to a titty bar for his Bach party and I almost ended it! No fucking joke. Never will I ever understand the need to go buck wild before getting married. So to answer your question, yes I'd have a HUGEEEEEE problem with that