I have been beyond patient and respectful to my step mom for 19 years even after all the mistreatment..bad mounthing me..tearing my clothes..making me do heavy chores that she would never give her kids..she looked for even the slightest small mistake to cause drama at home..especially between me and dad. He is a good man very polite..but can't stand up for by letting me leave hom. He wants to make peace..but its been 19 years and nothing has changed. I am 25..i have a job..no one in our clan leaves home before marraige but this has gotten out of hand. Latest incident she was mad about me getting home late because i went to do my hair at a salon..am black so the hair struggle is real. And wanted me to undo it just because i was late..am it was just 8pm..am tired i want to leave..but i dont want to dissapoint my dad..since me leaving without their blessing would also cause lotsbof issues with both sides of the family..i dont knw wat to exactly do wat is right..but i am tired..mayb she will find her peace if i leave..cause i sure will find mine.

I am going for a masters degree in sept..dad wants me to wait till then for me to leave to lower the amount of repercussions but its been too much..i dont thnk i can handle an xtra day..three more weeks is just too much