Is it okay for a guy to ask for a bj?

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So tonight I was making out with this guy and it was going well till he asked for a bj. Now he didn't come out and say 'give me a blowjob' he said 'why don't you... You know..' Then looked down at his crotch. At this point I was shocked he asked because I didn't think we'd jump into that, that soon so I was just staring at him, he assumed I was confused by what he was saying so he gently pushed my head down but I pulled away when my head got to his should level. I told him he killed the mood and a guy should never ask, it's supposed to just happen.

I don't know, I just feel like not only is it slightly disrespectful to assume but it's also a big turn off.

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He can ask (nicely)
You can say no (e.g. "Maybe another time")

But pushing your head is NOT on, it's never on - no matter what/ when/ where/ who.

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You can ask all you want to but the second you put your hand on me and try to push my head towards your dick its probably gonna end with a "get your hand off my head and no you aren't getting a blow job asshole."

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I feel its a double standard i mean a female is supposed to say what she wants but a man cant i dont see anything disrespectful about him asking yes it may have been too soon and yes he could have said it differently but still no one is a mind reader it was something he wanted you to do he thought thats where the moment was headed idk just my opinion though

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You don't ask you don't get! 
It doesn't sound like he was trying to force you by pushing your head just maybe guiding and he seemed to understand when you said no which is good!

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Asking is fine, pressuring is not. It seems like he was asking to me but was doing it really awkwardly. I know a lot of girls here think the head push was really disrespectful and maybe it was, but if it was gentle it sounds to me like he was too damn nervous to say the word blowjob and was trying to get his point across other ways. He needs to learn to use his words!

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Asking okay, though if brought up in the wrong situation clearly it can kill the mood. What's not okay is him pushing your head towards his crotch!

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He can ask that don't mean you have to give it.

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Honestly I think it depends on the situation. A guy should never try to push your head down on their crotch, IMO. I had a guy do that to me and I wanted to bite his dick off

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I really appreciate open communication with my partners. So for me, a guy asking for what he wants is encouraged and helpful.

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I would absolutely want a guy to ask. That's how you have safe, responsible sex; by asking and not assuming.

Is it okay for a guy to ask for a bj?

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