UPDATE-Baby Shower and Birth-Upset
My husband's parents are throwing a baby shower/family thing (guys are going) in September. This idea was mentioned to me but basically set up between him and his mom with me just given the day. All my family lives in FL and we are in NC, so it's literally his family only. I've grown pretty close over the last few months to a friend. I asked my husband what he thought about the idea of me inviting her and her husband to this since I have nobody. He flat out said no because it's a family thing and that would make everyone uncomfortable. I'm kind of hurt over it because my feelings and "comfortableness" apparently don't matter at all.
Last night I told my husband that I don't want his parents rushing in the room right after I deliver the baby and that pissed him off too. He said it wasn't fair to make them wait. We ended up sorting that out, but I feel like everything is coming to be based around everyone being comfortable but me.
Do I sound selfish?
Update: My husband said he didn't realize what effect not having someone to invite meant to me and said he talked to his parents and they all agreed it was a good idea. Also, I guess I should have explained the hospital situation better. We sorted it out that night. He said he would call everyone after the baby is born so nobody tries to come in right after. That's what I meant when I said we sorted it out. He's not controlling or abusive. We almost always work things out and I was just trying to see if I was being selfish in any way. This isn't my first kid, but it is for him and he just doesn't understand the whole process.
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