I almost had sex last night with a complete stranger. That's fine, I do it occasionally and it's always my choice. Last night, the guy in question didn't have a condom, and neither did I since I wasn't planning on staying at the party.

Upon realising that I wouldn't let him penetrate me without one he said

1. It's fine you're on the pill right?

And then

2. Just the tip, I won't cum inside.

I kindly explained to him that I was worried about STI's, not pregnancy and walked back to the party, poured myself a drink and said nothing of what had happened.

He followed me back and started telling me to leave the party because nobody likes me and I'm making everyone uncomfortable. Then he told me I was crazy and he wouldn't fuck me even if they paid him.

For the first time in the six years I've been sexually active, I felt slut shamed and uncomfortable with myself. Let me tell you, it blows. The worst part? The other women at the party were telling me I should kiss him to shut him up.

This is not okay. Having sex is a mutual decision and the act can be called off at any time. Making a person feel cheap, dirty, and unwanted for exercising their right to say no is called abuse; it is cowardly and wrong on so many levels. When you see a person in that position, please don't ask that he or she reward the person that is verbally harassing them.

Just had to get that off my chest.