When to tell friends and family?

Grace
We aren't pregnant yet, but wondering what our strategy is going to be when we are. I know you're not supposed to tell anyone until the end of the first trimester, but at the same time, doesn't this perpetuate the "hush hush" nature of miscarriages? I mean, shouldn't we talk about both of these possibilities? I understand that for some people maybe it's a privacy thing too. Like because of the possibility of a miscarriage, they don't want people asking questions that could be painful to answer. What do you think or what did you do with your pregnancy?