Can't enjoy sex??

Tori
So whenever I masturbate with my clit its feels good (ofc) but whenever my partners have touched me there in the past it doesn't really feel the same, I don't really get that much pleasure from actual sex just more of a really intense feeling. I thought maybe it might be because my partners were too rough or maybe I wasn't completely relaxed or something but I just want to be able to enjoy sex and orgasm like I do when I'm by myself!! Anyone else experiencing/gone through the same thing& does anyone have any ideas as to what I could do to solve this problem??