Some advice...

My husband and I have been together 8 years, married 1. I was on the pill for 7 of those years. In those years he would pretty much always initiate sex, normal foreplay and switching positions trying different things etc. I had low sex drive on the pill. we are now ttc, have been for 6 months. We've had the discussion that sex isn't just for baby making,its still enjoyable, no pressure etc. my sex drive is quite high now off the pill. I cannot get him to do anything but me on top (facing both directions). I also am not receiving anything, there is no foreplay. I have not orgasmed in a month at least. I always have to initiate. I tried having a discussion with him he said well I had to initiate all those years I don't see the issue and I kind of shut down. I've tried sexting, wearing cute and risqué stuff, I don't mind initiating, but I can't continue to do the same position and not have any foreplay. Any thoughts?