I have a really good friend who, since I've been told by doctors that my only chance to get pregnant will be donor eggs, has treated me like my infertility diagnosis. She only texts me to ask about it and for updates. She has a two year old and a newborn and gets pregnant the first time she as sex every time. she's been saying things to me lately like "this time in my life is meant to be" and "everything will be ok" and this is "God's will". I'm a Christian so I know she's saying what she thinks I want to hear but none of it is true and I've said that. I may never get pregnant and that's not ok. I don't believe it's God's will any more then it is for someone to get cancer. etc etc. she told me the other day that she feels like she needs to check up on me and that she's sad for me because I've changed since my diagnosis. And she says she knows my pain because she had a miscarriage years ago. I AM NOT discounting the pain and loss that is felt with having a miscarriage but it makes me mad when she says that because this is MY experience and she has no idea how it feels. Just like I have no idea what it feels like to lose a baby and I would never pretend I do. She basically said that I'm a depressed shell of a person thinking only about my diagnosis. But she's the only one who thinks that! Everyone else that knows my journey has been telling me how well I'm handling it. I know that I have good days and bad days. I know I spend a good amount of time and energy on my TTC journey because I am very active in attempting to prove the doctors wrong. But I am still my happy, cheerful, color-loving, laughing, self...with a few more mood swings than before because of the meds I'm on.

And she doesn't see that because all she does is talk to me about my infertility.

I know that when I was first diagnosed and was telling those closest to me, I had to talk about it as if it was someone else. I was monotoned and slightly detached other I broke down and couldn't finish my explanation of my diagnosis. But that was the couple weeks following my diagnosis and i can now talk about it without getting so emotional.

We have plans to get together for a face to face chat tmrw and I'm really hoping I can explain to her how I need her support best right now.

It's just very hurtful when she says things like that or tells me how I should be feeling/thinking/acting to my situation.

I don't like conflict so I don't know how to tell her to back off.

Ugh. Rant over. Thanks. ☺