MILs are a different breed!😡😡😡

Lauren • 31, partner is 35. We have three children, William 10, Georgia 2 & Eliza just born. I work with domestic abuse victims in the north east of England. Partner is a roofer/joiner.

I am totally convinced that they are off their heads. All of them. Ive always gotten on with my mother in law. Until recently. Btw, this is long. If you make it to the end, kudos! If not, adios.

Shes had a right mood on because i hadnt taken any of the summer holidays off. Given that im about to go on maternity leave until July next year, i really didnt think she would be THAT annoyed that i hadnt taken any time off in the 6 weeks.

Anyway, as it transpires, i took last week off, im on the sick this week due to anaemia and a uti and im on annual leave again next week. So shes happy about that. (That im off not the ill part😂)

Anyway, today she rings to say shes taking the kids to the cinema and can i take my son over for about half 12. I say yeah no bother. She asks how im feeling. So i tell her, ive put a sick note in for this week. Still feeling sick and tired and breathless. But taking it easy, doing stuff in stages etc. Then she starts saying about how i need to eat, she doesnt believe in this eating for two malarkey (well neither do i!) But i do need to eat because my stomach will be shrinking and im not helping the baby. (????) So i was like, what do you mean? So she goes on to say how im "obviously" not eating properly because i am so small and am 29 weeks pregnant, and the lack of food is no good for the baby and its "obviously" not growing properly.

So i was like, sorry, what now?!

Fact 1) i carried small with my son, he was 6lb 6oz and born at 38+5. He was perfectly healthy.

Fact 2) i am also carrying small with this child. I was my mums smallest & my partner was his mums smallest.

Fact 3) when your uterus grows, your organs, including your stomach, are pushed upwards, effectively causing breathlessness (altho this is due to my anaemia and asthma currently) and lack of being able to eat the same amount.

Fact 4) i seen the midwife last week. At 28+2. She measured my uterus, and im measuring perfect. Bang on for my dates. Not under, not over. Babys heartbeat is happy & healthy, babys movements are bang on. On the chart im bang on. Estimated that the baby will be around 7lb. No more than 7lb 14oz. Which is fine by me. Not malnourished, or unhappy. My baby is perfectly fine.

Fact 5) i am ill. I have anaemia, causing me to feel tired and sick, and i have a uti. Also causing pain, tiredness, sickness etc. So yeah, i might be 'off' my food a little. However, my partner cooks every night. And i eat little and often during the day. Which is what i was advised.

So now im bouncing between red rage and wanting to cry, because she insinuates that im effectively neglecting my baby to stay skinny. What? I love my bump. I'd love a bigger one. But i just dont carry big. I cant help that!😡😡😡😡😡

Cant wait to tell my partner when he gets home. That his mother is frigging insane. 😑