DO YOU THINK ITS FAIR?

Question

My boyfriends sister just got engaged we've been talking about getting engaged for months and now all of a sudden we can't until after her wedding which the date isn't even set...I understand the whole don't upstage thing but do you think it's fair now he doesn't want to until after her wedding?

Accepted Answer

Why do you have to wait? Go ahead and get engaged and set your date regardless!

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Nope! Some people stay engaged for years before they get married. There's no such thing as waiting someone's entire engagement period so as not to "upstage" them.

I think it'd be unkind to get engaged like a week after they did. Or right before or after their actual wedding day. But they don't own an entire year, or however long it takes them. That's ridiculous.

I think to be safe I wouldn't announce an engagement for the month after their announcement (although a quiet engagement in the meantime that you wait to announce wouldn't hurt anybody). If they're having an engagement party, I might wait until a few weeks after the party. I also probably wouldn't announce an engagement the month before or after their wedding. But any time else? No problem.

Sounds like either he's really clueless, or he just isn't sure he's ready to get engaged and this is an excuse to delay.

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Sounds like it may be a bit of an excuse? Maybe he's scared? Just talk to him about it and find out why he thinks it's important to wait until after.

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I wouldn't wait. It's an engagement. You aren't planning your wedding the same week as theirs! Go ahead! There is no point stalling your future based on other peoples plans.

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You shouldn't have to wait. That's a silly reason, in my book!

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Ummm that's ridiculous!  My twin sister and I got engaged a month apart (she got engaged first) she had been with her hubby for 5 years and I had been with mine for 6 years.  So it didn't stop my man from popping the question. Then we got married a month apart!! I got married a month before her.    It was actually so fun going through the process together!!!

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Maybe he has a plan 😊😊 just stay calm and be patient lol

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My brother in law said he was going to wait to propose to his gf until after our wedding but then changed his mind and did it 6 months before. We all were excited for them, and when our wedding came around they didn't make everything about them and their engagement because it was our special day. I think it's silly he wants to wait.

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You can get engaged, and don't have to get married yet.

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Not even a little rude. You know what would be rude? Getting engaged AT HER WEDDING, or getting engaged and setting your date just before hers. Anything else is fair game!

DO YOU THINK ITS FAIR?

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