Problem!!!!

If I'm a virgin and have never been able to use a tampon since it always hurts/is uncomfortable can it be too tight? I am wondering if my hymen hasn't broke. When my bf touches me it hurts and he can barely move his finger even when I'm fully aroused. Opinions? I'm scared of the gyno so haven't been yet! I once went due to a yeast infection and the culture test was so painful they couldn't do it since  I was crying and scared.