relationship advice?

Tell him you need to take a break for a few weeks...you need space. If he's truly an ass he will probably move on by week 3....guys are weak. He will do all the breaking up for you. ;)

Honestly, racist-- and rude on top of that-- is a deal-breaker for me. 😒 If I was with someone and found out they were horrible (because to me, racist IS horrible), I wouldn't feel too bad about dumping his ass. 👋 If he is showing you who he really is, and you don't like it, then you have absolutely no obligation to remain with him. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't be attracted to him anymore either, because those things are incredibly off-putting and do not match with my own personal morals. Never feel bad for following your gut and doing what is best for you. Yeah, he will probably be upset or angry, but he will get over it. Don't let yourself get tied down in a sub-par relationship. You can do much, much better. And if I were you, I would do it ASAP. Waiting almost always makes things worse (I personally could never keep a facade going for a week anyways). 

It isn't the concept of finding the guy your dating attractive or not it's mostly why'd you date him and can you still see that in him? (Unless it was for looks lol) If you see yourself better without him then I'd say dump him, but by implying about his birthday I'm guessing you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings on his big day, so it states the what do I do questions.I'd say have a talk with him and see how things workout maybe he can 'change' 😋 unless you offically want nothing to do with him then I'd say let him go and not wait it out till his party is over because that might make it a bit worse... ☹️😬 goodluck ! Hope this was helpful in a way 😂