Gender reveal or no???

So I recently had a miscarriage in May at 8 weeks then in July I found out that we are pregnant again I was so scared to tell our family and friends (still haven't told most) because I was scared it would happen again well I am now 10 weeks and at my next appointment should be finding out what I am having. I have been wanting to have a gender reveal party but I'm kinda scared to, what if I do and we get ours and everyone else's hopes up and it happens again??? What do yall think???