Before my husband and I got pregnant (and even while pregnant) he was SO helpful with anything and everything. But ever since I had our baby he seems more and more with drawn. Whenever I ask for help its like pulling teeth. Ive asked him multiple times to go to marriage counseling with me but he never wants to go. ( I think he is embarrassed because he would have to notify his chain of command)  and on top of not being very helpful with the baby, I feel like we just don't have a good connection anymore. I've asked my mother for advice on this and she says it's just how men are and I REFUSE to accept it. My husband and I really haven't had much of a sex life since our son was born (3.5 months ago) and we've had family members baby sit so we could go on dates and he always gave an excuse. It's really making me insecure about my post parum body and just myself in general. Also, I have tried talking to him about it but he just says "I don't know what you want me to any other than I'm sorry " any advice ?? TIA.