Epilepsy mums

Im wondering to see how the mums with epilepsy managed during there labour. I got diagnosed after i had my son at 18 now im 21 and after trying for 3 years nearly 20 weeks pregnant i had the epidural with my son and ended up with nerve damage to my back that causes pain every day so im really dont want it again but my consultant is trying to push me towards it as pain and stress can cause seasures during labour is there anything else yous tried that helped? Im not agenst pain releif now id take it as i know how sore labour is 😂 but i dont want something so invasive this time xx