I can totally relate. When I lost first pregnancy at 4 mos my mother and my sister could not handle my needs at all. My sister had her baby on the same month as I was due, and because I couldn't bring myself to the hospital they excluded me from the baptism. It was so hurtful and my relationship with my mother is strained & with my sister non existent ( her choice not mine).I'm telling you this bc when tragedy happens, you really get to see who you can really count on for support. My advice is to covet those who were there for you, gave you space when u needed space. You now know you cannot count on either of them for emotional support. I am so sorry for your loss. A mc is a horrible thing to go through & when your family is angry that you didn't meet their needs when you were going through this makes it all the worse.Hugs to you.
MIL and SIL 😤
My MIL and SIL haven't been the best of friends. This separation started when my husband and I were wedding planning. MIL wanted to be super involved and know everything, etc.
Flash forward to the present. My husband told me they (his sister and Mom) keep discussing the MC I had. Asking if my mom had one (which she didn't + not genetic and does not increase your chance of a MC anymore than the 25% that anyone else has) then my husband was voicing to his parents he was upset that his brother in law hasn't reached out to him. My MIL said well it could because your wife didn't response to a text message from your sister for 3 days. He became upset. Because that time she is referring to is when we found out at 10 weeks still no heartbeat and I would need to induce MC, wait, have a D/C , etc. ended up inducing worse thing I did. Ended up in ER for uncontrollable pain and ended up with a d/c for remaking products. Anyways, I wasn't up for talking with anyone for a few days. Even some of closest friends don't know the whole story. In the same breath. They haven't come to visit us or even send a card. After he told me what they had said I ugly cried telling my mom. It upsets me very deeply. I know they will never truly understand because they have two kids each and didn't suffer a MC. I just feel they aren't sympathetic to my situation at all. I am fed up with dealing with them. My husband is at his breaking point as well. They told him in the past I have changed him for the worst because he isn't around as much. Well, we live an hour away. They never include him in things either. He's always the last to know that his parents are going on vacation somewhere. Oh to top it off for our birthdays which our a wwwk apart MIL sends a card with 100 and I get 30 bucks for iTunes. I mean I didn't care about getting a gift but wow. My mom gives us each the same amount when to my brothers wife.
Okay now I am just rumbling. I guess I am in the anger stage. 😤
Sorry about the loooong post. I guess I needed to vent some more.
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