can your Dr really say no to you getting a fertility test done due to age??

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Alright. Here goes nothing... I am 21. Please do not place judgement on me for whatever you end up reading.  My boyfriend of 4+ years on and off a few times, are TTC. We've been trying the last 3-4 months. Went off birth control, started taking pre-pregnancy First Response gummies, preseed lube, etc. Back story for this is, I have had Chlamydia twice. Two separate occasions- from the same person during a break that my boyfriend and I ended up having. Neither time did I end up having it for very long. The first time I was exposed- I had symptoms to a point where I was in the hospital only 3 days later. Second time- I obviously didn't trust him due to the first time so each time I went in right away and got it taken care of quickly. Yes. Mistake the second time, that's on me.  My doctor then told me that a big thing about STDS is that they can obviously cause infertility. I also, suffer from chronic BV which does not help, and during the summer I get yeast infections constantly. My gyno told me having BV and yeast can't hurt your fertility- because it's just an overgrowth of bacteria so that aspect I'm not really worried about. I barley get symptoms anymore to be honest and I don't get a smell when I have BV, just some sharp pains every now and again. What I'm not understanding is, when I brought up my boyfriend and I wanting to start a family, she told me I was too young and that if I wanted a kid I could come babysit hers. Now, I understand that 21 is not an "ideal" age for TTC. I get that others would wait till their late 20s but for me and my circumstances I would rather have a child earlier vs. later. Well, since she brought up the infertility part, and since we've been trying these last few months I've been thinking maybe this is due to the Chlamydia. Maybe it could've caused infertility since she said every female is different and since I had such drastic pain the first time.. it just all made sense and could possibly add up.  well when going in for my usual check up today I asked her if I would be able to get one of those ultra sounds done to test my fertility. The one with the dye, where they send it through your tubes to make sure things can be properly passed through them. She said, that in order for her to write out a script for it my boyfriend and I would have needed to try to conceive for over a year which means having sex every other day for a year.. and she always seems to trace back to my age and that I shouldn't want a kid at this point in time. I have a feeling that she may be using my age as a main factor in this but with her being my doctor shouldn't we have at least been able to talk this out?? She also said that after the test is done, that your chances of pregnancy sky rocket the next three months after getting the test done.. I'm wondering what your guys opinions are on this whole ordeal .. please refrain from judgemental comments due to my age. I'm so beyond sick of the judgment against that. I'm not 16 TTC. If I am infertile and it's something that could be worked on or treated such as PID, or this dye test-- is it wrong of me to want to get it all figured out when I'm young?? Feedback appreciated.

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You actually have to be trying for a year before they do any fertility test. So I don't think she's using your age as an excuse to not test.

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Age isn't a problem. My husband was 21 when we started trying. (He was 18 when we got married) we were told you have to be actively trying for a year. Tracking ovulation each month etc. We did that for a year and I was ovulating. But nothing still happening. We started infertility testing and found out it was my husband he has a very very low count they only gave us a 2% chance of ever getting pregnant without medical help. They said it most likely is a result to his job in the military and they things he works with when he is deployed. 🙄 So we stopped trying and started saving for IUI and IVF. Since the military doesn't cover it. Then a month after not TTC we found out we are pregnant. And we are Due in January.  Give it time. They won't see you until a year of trying. It takes A healthy couple anywhere 6-12 months to get pregnant.

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They won't do any testing regardless of your age specifically until you have been trying actively for a year at the minimum. Older women (usually aged 35+) they will test or if a younger woman has history of pcos and such they will test for infertility. But seeing as how you've only been trying for a few months no they won't. Also have you tried charting when you ovulate and testing for ovulation? Because if you haven't tried that either they won't test. I'm 29 and when they started testing me it was beige here year mark of really trying only because I hadn't conceived within 3months of my miscarriage and my husband was deploying before the year mark. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive without problems. Keep trying.

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Pretty much every doctor will wait at least a year before doing fertility testing unless over the age of 36 or history of endometriosis or PCOS. It can take a perfectly healthy couple up to a year to conceive. As far as chlamydia causing infertility you would have needed to have it long enough to where it moved into your uterus causing pelvic inflammatory disease and causing the uterine lining to inflame causing scar tissue. So the reality is you're probably going to have to continue to ttc for another 8-9 months before they start testing.

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Get a different doctor!

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I don't believe it's age. They won't run that test unless you've been trying for at least a year. The only thing about age is when older couples TTC and may not have that time to wait because fertility would be already naturally declining at that point, so things go faster.

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I got married at 20 I am now 21 and 32 weeks pregnant. Don't let anyone tell u anything about age. I feel if u want to try for a baby that's ur decision. But the test can't be done until u have tried for a year that's what my doctor told me because we thought we would never get pregnant we tried 8 months and finally got pregnant. So keep trying and don't lose hope!!! Best of luck

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She really has no say in the matter. And I feel you, my husband and I started TTC a month before we got married, I was pregnant during our wedding but didn't know it and had a miscarriage on January 2nd. He and I are only 22 but we know that we want a child. We've now been trying for 10 months, and decided that if we don't get pregnant by the end of January, we may go to see a specialist. There's nothing wrong with TTC at a young age. Its actually better because then the child feels closer to you. I know my mom had me at 19 (planned) and we're very close. Wishing you luck on your baby journey!

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If your not comfortable with your doc, switch. However, 99% of doctors won't even talk about infertility until you've been trying for a year. It can take healthy couples over a year to conceive. It sucks waiting but it's in your best interest. It's very costly and nerve racking to undergo fertility treatments. You can have terrible side effects on top of all that. Clomid not only didn't work for me, it gave me a giant cyst on my ovary. I'm now on birth control to try and shrink it and if it doesn't work, my doc will have to stick a needle in it and suck out the fluid. TTC is one of the hardest things I've ever done. It's filled with constant worry, stress, anger and sadness. All you can do is be patient and believe it'll happen.

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It might not be age most sr won't see you unless you been ttc for over a year my St said same thing!

can your Dr really say no to you getting a fertility test done due to age??

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