Relationship? conflict Family?
So my BF and I are currently in a argument about how he feels about my family.
This has always been an argument because I haven't stepped up to my siblings and my mother about how abusive they are to me. Being that they want me to be the maid, and wash dishes and be basically Cinderella. Which I have talked to them countless and rebelled against them saying it's not fair that my mother and I are doing all the housekeeping.
We have been dating two years.
Today in the morning txt I get he said "I hate to tell u this but I'm done with your family...That's an understatement... Idk if you realize this but they disrespect a lot of people..." by that he means the very first thanksgiving that I showed up by myself when his family invited mine to come over. And my side of the family was a no show because they see it as the first thanksgiving should just be me since the relationship is still new. A year later they extended the invitation again, my family respectfully declined. From the first thanksgiving they already expected that my family wouldn't show up for the second one.
Then he later says "I'm seeing this from an outside point of view...I'm talking about All three of them... U may not see what I see but they're the rudest family I have ever seen..."
this is the day after my sisters party that my sister didn't invite him cause it was her party. I had asked her if he could come but she used it as an excuse to say we are gonna have that day bonding. I'm thinking that it would just be the three of us.
He later writes "I told you she was lying to u. She didn't want no sister bonding THEY JUST DONT LIKE ME... Something is wrong if u don't see that"
I responded I do see that and it is wrong of her to be excluding you when you have been nothing but nice to her.
I tried to talk to my sister and she said she'll think about it. I guess and am assuming that she just doesn't like my boyfriend.
To me this relationship is only two people HIM & I. I don't care what other people say, at the end of the day I love him so much, I'd do anything for him. I personally don't want this relationship to end.
He said I have been helping you way more then they have to get yourself together and on track with getting your career. I have told you countless times you need to stand up for yourself when your sisters bully you. And need to move out of that house cause it's nothing but bad luck. Your 23 years old and your scared to have confrontation with your sisters who manipulate you and tell you want to do.
BF background:
-Single child (only godson of the grandparents)
-Raise in a suburban area out side of the city
-graduated college
-has a full time job
-always had the attention of his family
-some symptoms of depression
-lives by himself on the weekdays and weekends just goes over to do laundry at his parents house.
-Filipino
My background
- youngest of 4 sisters
- Raised in the city (not so good neighborhood)
- Have been out of school for a year now but is planning to go back
- Works a part-time job in a wear house
- Struggling with ADHD, anxiety depression
- Four women live in one -2 bedroom apartment
- Filipino and Latina
Look I know no family is perfect.
I just need help! Ladies I'm coming to you cause maybe some of you can relate, or idk maybe you know some people who have been thought this.
If y'all need more information I'll be glad to add more.
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