Can someone please help me??

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I posted about this earlier but no one responded and maybe this is more of a vent than anything else...but I feel really alone right now and need some comments. My husband is not really a good person to talk to about this stuff and I don't wanna talk to anyone else because literally all my friends and family are tired of hearing me talk about getting pregnant and just laugh at me whenever I bring it up. 
But as many of you know, I miscarried in June, since then I have had two periods but my last cycle was so. It normal for me, and this month I have gone from EWCM to creamy to dry to vvvlight spotting every few days. I don't EVER spot and I don't know how to track any sort of fertility with my CM being all over the place for the last few weeks. I don't know what to do and I'm scared my body isn't on track due to my miscarriage and I just....like I said, feel alone. 😥 I really could just use some gals who know what this is like.

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Hi there, first of all let me say sorry for your loss 😔 I miscarried in April and for my first couple of periods after I spotted everytime I should ovulate, this can happen on the day, the day before,or after it happens. It took me about 4 months to get back on track, but a little while to conceive  and now I'm 7w+4 with our rainbow. It's hard when your body isn't doing what it's supposed to, but give it time to heal, it's been through a rough time with you. I honestly think waiting was the  best thing we did, and now I'm a bit more confident with this pregnancy. I really hope you recover soon, but go easy on yourself OK? X

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It can take a while for your body to heal after a miscarriage - and your mental health too.  This may just be your bodies way of saying whhhooahh there hold on, let's chill for a bit and get strong again.  But don't feel alone. A miscarriage is a traumatic experience and you should be able to discuss this with your friends and partner - and on the plus side, you know you can conceive.  Maybe take a break from TTC and just enjoy your partner for a month or so, then do as the above poster says and track your temps xx

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I'm so sorry you feel alone.   You might find tracking bbt or doing opks helpful.  It may help to track something other than CM, which I find really hard anyway.
Be patient with yourself, you are completely justified feeling however you do, and just take things one day at a time.

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I'm sorry for your loss.  I miscarried in late June.  I found ppl are initially supportive, but unless you've experienced the loss you just don't get that the grief and pain goes on for months and months.  I'm currently 9+1 weeks now, and still cry at least weekly about loosing my first baby. My husband dealt with the loss differently.  He cried a lot initially but didn't want to talk much, didn't want to name the baby etc.  he said I could (which I did), but I respect his way of grieving to not tell him.  He also hated talk about fertile window etc- I think they hate seeing us in so much pain wanting a baby, and then place so much pressure on themselves to perform.

After my miscarriage, I found it reassuring to track my ovulation.  I wanted to know my body was ovulating and doing what it should.  Try OPKs, it helps identify your fertile window.  
If it's any reassurance, the majority of women who miscarry go on to have a healthy pregnancy within the next year (I've even read in 3-6 months).

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Hey, I miscarried on May 12th and I'm so unbelievably heartbroken and feel down all day. My cycles were all over the place, first one being 52 days, then second 39...slowly came back to 30 days only last month. I'm using clear blue dual hormone ovulation tests this month, finally got my peak on Friday! We're Trying hard this month. I have to thank my lucky stars we know we can conceive. I just hope we both get healthy pregnancies next time. Good luck xx

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I feel you. I miscarried May 19th and again A month later. A miscarriage means higher fertility but it can also make your cycles a little wonky for a while. I had to use bc for a month to get mine under control and now I use Soy Isoflavones from CD 3-7 to keep it under control naturally (its basically a natural clomid). If you dont want to try bc for a month, go straight to S.I. And try that for a while to regulate it. I swear S.I. Is what helped me ttc my son last year when I was having problems with cycles, etc.

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