the hard time...husband and anger management

Hi ladies, I'm posting anonymously because I don't know where else to turn to right now. My husband definitely has an anger management issue but he can't see it and therefore won't get help. We had a situation at the weekend which he completely overreacted about and he started calling me really nasty names and telling me to get out of his house (we are married and both own the house). He ended up leaving on Sunday and only came back last night to sleep in the spare room and then left again early this morning. He won't respond to anything. I'm asking him if he wants a divorce and he won't respond and when I beg him to stop being so angry he says that I need serious help and need to sort out my issues. I don't know what to do. Can anyone suggest a way to deal with this? Or what I can say to make him see how irrational he is being? I'm at a loss right now.