Not So Sure On A Baby Shower

Ok this is my third pregnancy with another boy I have a 9 & 3 year old both boys and I'm not so pumped on a baby shower but my best friend and mom is like have something but I don't know maybe a small get together after baby or possibly before a lil dinner at my place or a welcoming party idk and my boyfriend is like me umm what's the point lol but I want my family & friends to be apart of this blessing