Hi ladies , how do you handle it?

My two year old screams all the time now. We recently moved I took her pool. She would not listen so I cut trip short. She was very upset started 😱 top of her lungs . My neighbors in complex looking at me . I told her stop lets go home time nap . She kept shouting I don't go my my new house. I stay at pool. I picked her up she cried and 😢. She became very defiant towards me. I give her choices to try smooth things out. If she doesn't get her way she throws full blown tantrums. This can be with me helping her get dressed or even brushing her teeth. I told time take nap go your room she didn't budge. I said come lay down with mommy watch super why. She said i not lay with mommy i not take nap. She was cranky knew was sleepy. I picked up took her room laid her down and she screamed for few moments. She is nit so defiant with my fiancé (her favorite parent). She says something once or twice and she stops and does it. I don't know what I am doing wrong