which option is the best in handling miscarriage?

Question

I just had a miscarriage this morning. Me and my partner was devastated 😢 It's an incomplete miscarriage. Found out later by the brochure that the hospital hand over that we have 3 options; 
1. to go let the tissue out naturally let nature take it course which could take from days to 4 weeks
2. take a medicine which could hasten the process and it will clear up within few hours or max 2 days.
3. Curette.

But for my case curette is maybe unnecessary unless the bleed not stop over a week and still heavily bleeding.

The thing is the hospital didnt offer me the option of medication. Which i will prefer because it will clear up faster and wont need to go to longer period of time anxiously worrying if it has clean/ clear up and i can get back to my usual activity. 
Im confuse on why the hospital didnt even lay it  down as option to me.

Please share me your thought and experience and what do you think it best to do

Answer

I have done the medical option twice now... I couldn't wait for my body to expel natural it was pure torture!  To have all the symptoms and know that there is no baby was awful (blighted ovums).  I started the pills on a Friday after work and was back to work Monday; pain was minimal (especially if you start them at night most cramping happens in the beginning so you're sleeping through most of it).  My OB also gave my Tylenol with codeine to help with the pain (I barely touched it), by Saturday afternoon I was cleaning the house; Sunday I was shopping.  Both of these were at 9 and 10 weeks

I also had a regular miscarriage (expelled naturally) that to me hurt more than the medically induced.  I for one liked the fact that I had control of the situation.  Not knowing when it would happen was awful.  This one was at 5 weeks and was a fetus - it was devastating.

I just recently had a D&C... the pain right after was bad; I was put under for it so beginning wise the IV was the worst.  I went home with a heating pad and they told me to take Motrin (scoff yeah okay) I ended up taking the left over Tylenol with codeine and that helped with cramping.  I was back to work the next afternoon physically; was working from home that afternoon.

Each option has its benefits but it's your personal preference.  The pills made me feel safer because I was told of it doesn't expel on it's own they will have to either do a D&C anyways or just dialate me and go in to "pull it out".  With the pills I knew it would all be expelled in the comfort of my own home.

Best wishes xx

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I had a d/c... i thought i would have  preferred  the medication  (pill) instead, but my dr said it will be alot more emotional and alot more blood loss...... but not sure since u had a partial  loss

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I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know you are feeling so raw and drained. I just went through this last month. My doctor strongly recommended natural. The fertility specialist beg him to tell
His patients to go the batural route if at all possible as D &C can impact fertility. I never confirmed this but i took his word. I bled for a week. Two weeks after that doctors visit by hcg levels were at 0.
For me the pain was the worst the day I found out I was miscarrying. I took Motrin and felt better later that day. The pain that took the longest to get through was the emotional pain.

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I'm confused. You said your second option was medication but then go on to say they didn't offer you medication? Huh?

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I would personally go the natural option if possible but I don't know what Curette is either. I have taken the medication and it is absolutely horrible. It may be different for you but the amount of bleeding and pain was not only horrible but terrifying. Good luck.

which option is the best in handling miscarriage?

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