I'm trying to monitor everything naturally and I went to check my cervix and it was high, soft, and open. However afterwards it hurts badly. I was having cramps and just general pain. Then a couple hours later me and my husband tried to have sex and it was horribly painful I had to make him stop and I just cried. Now when I had my daughter and was being checked I told the doctor it hurt and she said it is normal..but is this normal now?