So today I went with a friend of mine who was having an abortion today, her boyfriend came with as well. While she was doing the paper work and all of the other stuff, her boyfriend and I stepped outside while he had a cigarette and started talking. We were talking about how it was such a hard decision and how he supported her 100%. We were talking about why she chose to make that decision and how it would impact their relationship. As we were talking other guys that were there with friends/girlfriends/wives came out and joined the conversation. They all seemed to ask me the same 2 questions; first was had I ever had an abortion and second was how did I get through it afterwards. They all wanted to know how they could help the women they were with and what the women would go through. I told them my story of the 2 abortions I had. One at 15 which was the result of a rape and one at 23 which was 6 months after I had my son and I was told the childbirth was not something my body would survive again. I told them how I got through it and mainly said the biggest thing the women needed was communication, no judgements and someone there to listen. As I spoke to them it got me thinking about something I had never thought about before; are there support groups for women who have had abortions, and for their significant others? Not the prolife approach, but a judgment free group where women and their spouses can talk and listen and grow with out judgement? Is there even a such thing?