FTM. Any ideas??

Question

I'm 35 weeks and I'm working on my birth plan and I've gotten to the point about who I want to be in the room while I'm delivering my baby. I know my husband will be with me but I'm not 100% about my mom and my sister. I feel like I'm going to be really exposed and I'm pretty conservative, which is why I don't think I want them there but at the same time I feel like they should be a part of it because 1. I was there for my sisters births and 2. Well that's my sister and my mom. I feel like their expecting to be with me because I'm the youngest one and their extremely excited about the new addition. I know I can keep them by my head so they don't necessarily look but I'm not sold on the idea. Can anyone give me ideas of how I can still have them a part of it but I don't necessarily have to have them in the room?

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You could just ask them to stay above your waist, let them know you're a little uncomfortable with them seeing that part of you, it's your body and hopefully they will respect that and still get to be a part of such a wonderful time :)

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Are you allowed to have that many people in the room with you? My hospital has only ever allowed my husband and one other person.

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World it be too weird for you to just tell them when baby is born? That's my plan... Not because I'm private or don't like my family- I'm actually very extroverted with this kinda stuff and love my family like crazy- still I feel like it's all about me and birthing and just like when I write a poem I need my space

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I totally agree with Rachael. Labor can be a long process. You could have them in the delivery room up until it's time to push and then have them step out (could also assign them the job of "updating" family and friends from the waiting area during this time). They can come back in minutes after the birth, but at least this allows you and your partner to have the actual birth experience alone- and you'll still have all the pre/post support from mom and sis! An alternative is telling them they can stay but with the understanding that you can clear the room at any time with no hard feelings.

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You could include them up until it is time to push. Or you could ask that they stay north of your waist.

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I had the same dilemma.  I told them they could be in the room until I'm dilated to a 9, and/or it's show time.  I want the actual birth to be just between my husband and me.

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You do you. If you only want your husband then they need to respect your wishes. Your comfort is more important than their feelings. They need to understand that and respect it.

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You can always have them be in the room during your labor but step out when you start to push. Or else you could ask them to stay at the head of your bed, but they may still see things when you are in stirrups. At the end of the day it's your body and your baby and you shouldn't feel bad if they aren't in the room. The most important people are you and your significant other.

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