Normal for happy couples to rarely fight?

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To all my fellow faithful girlfriends & wives out there; is it healthy to never fight with your SO? Maybe play fighting every now & then but nothing out of the ordinary. That's excluding screaming / hitting. Hit me with those opinions ladies!

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My fiancé and I never fight. We never yell. We argue back and forth but nothing mean or harsh. My fiancé got mad at me yesterday for forgetting to give him a bite of my chicken lol

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Me and my husband have been together 5 years now. We haven't argued. We disagree, we sometimes think the other persons opinion is utter rubbish. But we never shout, never demean, never belittle. We talk at a reasonable tone to each other, try very hard to see each other's point of view and then if no good can come of it we agree to disagree and move on. And these disagreements occur maybe once a year at the absolute most.

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My husband and I have been together for 11 years. We have known each other our entire lives.. im talking as babies. We were always great friends... we have never had any big blowout fights... the odd stupud argument.. like i like red and he likes blue or something minor...  which we always end up laughing about.  We typically just have similar opinions and if we dont we just discuss  each side of it and then make a decison. We also have 5 children and are expecting a 6th. I always remember that my grandparents never ever fought argued anything .. nothing but loving between them and they were happily married over 60 years..

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It is completely normal. I was guilted by people I knew on a regular basis because my now-husband and I have never fought. We've been best friends since 2007, and we've never fought. We have had differing opinions, but that's never been a reason to try and emotionally hurt the other person, in our minds. I felt like we were an anomaly because of what we were told, but then I read a blog post by one of my favourite marriage bloggers, and it turns out, she shares my love for peaceful disagreement.

The way I see it, arguments should never escalate if you out the other person's feelings first. And that action is not a popular one. We live in a world of self, and self-care is indubitably crucial to a fulfilling life. However, selfishness has no place in marriage. When you make vows to your spouse, you are giving yourself to them and they have given themselves to you. When you make choices with their greater good, and the greater good of your marriage, verbally violent conflict is more easily avoided.

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My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married 6. We have seriously only been in 2 actual arguments. We are talkers so when we feel some kind a way we have an open and honest conversation about it. We are both fixers so it works out. We are very happy. I have heard that arguing in relationships is a sign of a healthy union and I'm sure for some it's true just as for some the opposite is true.

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I think it depends. I've heard of a minister who won't marry a couple if they haven't had at least one big argument/disagreement. I don't necessarily agree with that, but I can see where he's coming from. If you are holding things in or avoiding arguments purposefully, then I don't believe that is healthy. You also need to know how each person deals when difficult things inevitably happen. However, if you do have disagreements but know how to work through them in a healthy, productive way, then that is great! 
My first boyfriend and I never argued. But it was because I didn't feel like I could express myself around him. He thought our relationship was so great and easy, but I felt emotionally constipated haha. He was my first boyfriend and I was too scared to be the "dramatic girlfriend," so I held things in. We never appeared to have any issues, and yet it was unhealthy. 
On the other hand, my now-husband and I feel so completely, comfortably ourselves with each other. We also rarely argue, and when we do, it is never a "fight." But it is healthy. I don't feel like I am holding back from him at all. When we disagree, we just know how to work with each other to come to a mutual understanding and/or compromise. We bring things up as they come instead of holding them in.
So ultimately it just depends on the relationship and the reason why you aren't arguing!

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My bf and I are very happy and we have only had maybe 2 or 3 serious fights in the course of a year and a half. And by serious I don't mean breaking up, or yelling or hitting, I mean I ended up crying. I have always thought that couples who constantly scream and hit each other cannot be that happy. I would never ever hit my bf. And I wouldn't think of us as happy if we always had serious fights

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We dont really fight a little bicker every so often but no proper arguments.... he obviously realises i'm always right 😂😂😂 jk x

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My hubby and I fight quite often. It's not that were not happy, it's usually just stress and financial issues

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I think it's normal as long as you keep communication open with your SO. My boyfriend and I have our issues and insecurities but we make sure none of that ever comes out with yelling, and that it never builds up

Normal for happy couples to rarely fight?

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